Lego clearly understood the Valentine’s Day assignment.
Our office dog, dressed in a Valentine’s costume, reminded me of something important: this business is built on relationships.
With clients. With candidates. And with the team behind the scenes who make it all happen.
I am especially grateful for the incredible people I get to work alongside—specifically, Brenda Cullum-Shergold, who shares the same standards, commitment to doing right by people, and excitement when we ring the gong.
When you genuinely enjoy what you do and who you do it with, it shows. And Valentine’s Day—commercial as it may be—is a good reminder to appreciate the people who matter in your work life.
The Three Relationships That Build This Business
Most recruitment content focuses on client relationships or candidate experience. Those matter enormously. But there’s a third relationship that gets overlooked: the team you work with every single day.
Relationships with Clients
These aren’t transactional. We genuinely care about our clients’ success. We invest in understanding their businesses, their challenges, their cultures. We want them to thrive.
When a client struggles to fill a critical role, we feel that pressure with them. When they succeed, we celebrate. The best client relationships feel like partnerships, not vendor arrangements.
Culture matters to us, and we choose to work with clients whose values align with ours. We can’t serve everyone well, so we serve the right clients exceptionally well.
Relationships with Candidates
We advocate for people. Not just during active job searches, but throughout their careers. We provide honest guidance, market intelligence, and support—even when there’s no immediate placement opportunity.
When someone we placed two years ago reaches out for career advice, we make time. When a candidate doesn’t get an offer, we provide real feedback and coaching. People aren’t products to be moved—they’re individuals whose careers and livelihoods we take seriously.
The best part of this job is ringing the gong when someone we believe in lands a great opportunity. That genuine excitement for their success is what makes this work meaningful.
Relationships with Team
Here’s what most people don’t see: the team behind the scenes.
Recruitment looks like one person’s work from the outside. But internally, it’s collaborative. It’s Brenda and I talking through challenging searches, debating candidate fit, strategizing on difficult markets, and celebrating wins together.
The quality of that internal relationship determines everything else. You can’t build authentic client relationships if your internal culture is toxic. You can’t genuinely care about candidates if you’re miserable with your team. Joy—or lack of it—is contagious.
When you work with people who share your standards and values, the work is better. The clients benefit. The candidates benefit. And honestly, you benefit because you don’t dread Monday mornings.
Why Internal Team Quality Matters More Than People Think
Let me be direct about something: internal team quality determines external outcomes more than most people realize.
You Can’t Fake Authentic Relationships
If your internal culture is terrible—if you don’t trust your colleagues, if values don’t align, if every day feels like a battle—you can’t suddenly turn on authentic care when talking to clients or candidates.
People sense authenticity. They know when you genuinely care versus when you’re performing. If you’re performing internally, you’re performing externally too. And that shows.
Our clients and candidates get the real us because the real us is how we operate internally. There’s no switch to flip. What you see is what we actually are.
Quality Work Requires Trust and Collaboration
Recruitment involves judgment calls. Difficult conversations. Ambiguous situations. Risk assessment. Strategic decisions.
When Brenda and I disagree on a candidate’s fit or a client’s readiness, we can have honest conversations because we trust each other. We challenge each other’s thinking. We make better decisions together than either of us would alone.
That trust took time to build, but it’s invaluable. It means we can be honest with each other, which means we can be honest with clients and candidates. No politics. No posturing. Just straight talk aimed at the best outcome.
Shared Standards Eliminate Friction
Here’s what makes working with Brenda easy: we have the same bar for quality.
We both believe in doing right by people, even when it’s inconvenient. We both care about long-term relationships over short-term wins. We both get excited about placing someone in the right role, not just any role.
When standards align, you don’t waste energy on internal battles about “should we do the right thing here?” You just do it. The energy goes into serving clients and candidates, not managing internal disagreements about values.
Genuine Excitement Is Shared
When the gong rings, we’re both genuinely excited. Not because we have to be. Because we actually are.
Someone just got an opportunity that will change their trajectory. A client just filled a role that was holding them back. The work we did together made that happen.
That shared celebration isn’t manufactured. It’s real. And it makes every difficult search, every setback, every long day worth it.
What This Means for Job Seekers and Employers
If you’re evaluating opportunities or building teams, this matters for you too.
For Job Seekers: Look Beyond the Job Description
When you’re interviewing, you’re not just evaluating the role. You’re evaluating the people you’ll work with daily.
Ask yourself:
- Do these people genuinely seem to like each other?
- Is there real respect, or just professional courtesy?
- Do they speak positively about colleagues, or do I sense tension?
- Would I want to spend 40+ hours per week with these people?
Green flags:
- Team members speak well of each other without prompting
- You sense genuine collaboration, not just coordination
- There’s energy and enthusiasm that feels real, not performed
- People have been there a while (low turnover suggests good culture)
- They talk about “we” more than “I”
Red flags:
- People don’t seem to like each other
- Complaints about colleagues (even subtle ones)
- Everyone seems stressed or unhappy
- High turnover (people don’t stay where they’re miserable)
- Toxic positivity or forced fun that feels fake
You’ll spend more time with work colleagues than with your family during the week. Choose people you actually want to be around.
For Employers: Hire for Team Fit, Not Just Skills
Technical expertise matters, but team fit matters just as much.
One bad hire—someone toxic, or whose values don’t align—can damage a strong team culture. Be selective. Protect what you’ve built.
Ask yourself:
- Will this person strengthen or weaken our culture?
- Do their values align with ours?
- Will they make the team better, or just fill a gap?
- Can I trust this person with our culture?
The ROI of strong teams:
- Better collaboration leads to better outcomes
- Lower turnover (people stay where they’re happy)
- Stronger client relationships (authentic culture shows through)
- More innovation (trust enables risk-taking)
- Easier recruiting (good people attract good people)
Invest in team quality. It compounds.
The Lego Lesson: Small Moments Create Culture
Let me come back to Lego for a moment.
Our office dog didn’t have to dress up for Valentine’s Day. We didn’t have to take his picture or post it on LinkedIn. It’s not a business necessity.
But we wanted to. Because it’s joyful. Because it’s authentically us. Because when work has space for small moments of playfulness, the whole culture feels lighter.
What a Dog in a Valentine’s Costume Teaches About Culture
Joy doesn’t require grand gestures. Lego in a Valentine’s costume is a small thing. But small things done consistently create culture. It’s not about expensive team-building retreats. It’s about daily moments of genuine connection.
Authenticity matters more than perfection. Lego’s costume wasn’t professionally designed. It was enthusiastic and a little chaotic. Perfect. That’s who we are. Enthusiastic and a little chaotic, but genuine.
When work feels playful, it’s a sign things are working. Not forced fun. Not mandatory team-building. Genuine playfulness that emerges because people enjoy being together.
Culture is what you do daily, not what you claim. We didn’t dress Lego up to prove we have good culture. We dressed him up because we have good culture. It’s the effect, not the cause.
The same principle applies to all workplace culture: it’s the small, authentic, daily things that matter most.
Gratitude for the People Who Make This Work
Valentine’s Day is commercial and often over-the-top. But it’s also a good excuse to express appreciation that we should probably express more often.
So let me be specific:
For Brenda: Thank you for sharing this journey with someone who cares as much as you do. For holding the same standards. For the honest conversations. For celebrating wins and navigating challenges together. Working alongside you makes this work better and more joyful.
For our clients: Thank you for trusting us with something as important as building your teams. For allowing us to be authentically ourselves while serving you professionally. For the partnerships that feel more like collaborations than transactions.
For the candidates: Thank you for trusting us with your careers. For the conversations, the updates, the “just checking in” messages. For allowing us to advocate for you and celebrate with you when things work out.
For everyone reading this: Thank you for being part of this community. Whether you’re a client, a candidate, a colleague, or someone who just follows along—thank you.
The Bottom Line: Love What You Do, Love Who You Do It With
Valentine’s Day reminded me of what matters: relationships.
Not just romantic ones. All the relationships that make life—and work—meaningful.
In recruitment, we’re privileged to be in the relationship business. We connect people to opportunities. We help companies build teams. We advocate for careers and growth.
But none of that works if the internal foundation is weak. You can’t build authentic external relationships on a foundation of internal dysfunction.
What Makes Work Sustainable
When you genuinely enjoy what you do, work doesn’t feel like drudgery. When you genuinely like who you do it with, Monday mornings aren’t painful.
That’s sustainable. That’s what allows you to do this work for years without burning out. That’s what creates the energy to care deeply about clients and candidates.
What Shows Through
When you love what you do and who you do it with, it shows.
Clients sense it. Candidates sense it. It comes through in every conversation, every email, every interaction.
You can’t fake it. You can perform for a while, but not indefinitely. Eventually, whatever is real internally will show externally.
So make sure what’s real internally is something worth showing.
The Invitation
For job seekers: Find work you care about with people you respect. Life’s too short for less.
For employers: Build teams where people genuinely want to be. It’s the foundation for everything else.
For everyone: Take a moment to appreciate the people you work with. They matter more than we usually acknowledge.
Lego understood the Valentine’s Day assignment. Maybe we all should.
Ready to Build Great Teams?
Whether you’re looking for your next opportunity or trying to build a team that actually works well together, let’s connect.
For job seekers: We care about finding the right fit, not just any fit. If culture and team quality matter to you, let’s talk.
For employers: If you want help building teams where people genuinely want to work, we can help.
Team Culture FAQs
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How can I assess team culture during a short interview process?
Pay attention to how people interact with each other, not just with you. Do they interrupt each other? Support each other’s points? Speak positively about colleagues? Ask to meet the team, not just the hiring manager. Request a coffee chat with a potential peer. Watch body language and energy levels. Trust your gut—if something feels off, it probably is.
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What if I like my job but not my team? Should I stay?
This is personal, but here’s what we’ve observed: job satisfaction rarely survives long-term team dysfunction. You might love the work initially, but spending 40+ hours weekly with people you don’t respect or enjoy wears you down. If the team is the problem and it’s unlikely to change, start looking. Life’s too short to be miserable with colleagues.
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As an employer, how do I protect team culture when hiring quickly?
Resist the urge to lower standards just because you’re desperate. One bad cultural fit can damage what you’ve built. Be transparent about your culture in interviews. Let candidates meet the team. Make culture fit part of your evaluation criteria, weighted equally with skills. Sometimes leaving a role unfilled temporarily is better than making a hire that damages your team.
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Can you build good team culture remotely?
Yes, but it requires more intentional effort. Remote teams need structured touchpoints, clear communication norms, and deliberate relationship-building. Virtual coffee chats. Video-on meetings when possible. Shared celebrations of wins. The principles are the same (trust, shared values, genuine connection), but the execution requires more intention.
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What if my company has a toxic culture but my immediate team is great?
Enjoy and protect your team while you have it. But understand that broader organizational culture eventually impacts every team. Great teams can create pockets of positive culture within dysfunctional organizations, but it’s exhausting and often unsustainable. If the broader culture is truly toxic, even strong teams eventually erode or people leave.